How do you feel about all your failures? Depending on the failures in throughout your life, how do you handle it?
Does failing at what brings you absolute joy, bring you to a terrible state of sadness?
Can you handle the failures that come to you? What about your success and great achievements?
Tell me all about what failure and failing means to you?
Thoughts and feelings?
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Tell me about how you handle different types of failures and just failing overall?
Iāve stumbled a lot but Iāve learned and grown from my failures. Iāve learned to not be afriad of failing, but I canāt get rid of the frustration I feel when I do fail.
Frustration is a feeling that is very intrisnsic to my life, in a way. It perfectly encapsulates how I often feel.
Now, this is a good way to look at failures and failing!
I honestly love how you handle things!
I do agree that trying to rid the frustration that comes with failing is not easy.
Yet, itās a learning process for next time when youāre faced with the same failure on what to do when it happens again.
Either get frustrated or stand up and handle the failure with a different attitude?
Does that make sense or no?
Depends on the type of failing tbh. Most of the time I just go āoh wellā and move on with my life because wallowing in self-pity sure as hell wonāt help
Yeah, but in some cases the frustration makes me want to try again.
True, very true!
Nope, I donāt worry about failing until it actually happens. Then I generally get angry, sulk for a few days, and then start again. (ļ¾ļ½ā”Ā“)ļ¾ā ā»āā»
What really bugs me is not so much my own failures, but rather the success of people who are objectively less talented than me. Oooh, that infuriates me! But I donāt see what can be done about that, so I just sulk for a few days more, then try, try again. ĀÆ\_(ļ¢)_/ĀÆ
Depends on the type of failure for me
Like if I fail at something I like or really wanted to accomplish then I do feel down, sad, and frustrated for a time (could be hours, sometimes a day or two). So far Iāve been able to bounce back, especially after reminding myself (or have someone else tell me) that its not the end of the world if I fail.
If its something I consider not important, then its more like āOh well, no biggieā and move on
Well it depends on the types of failures. Iām not getting a ton of reads right now. Thatās a failure. But at the same time, Iāve finished stories. Thatās not a failure. So I donāt worry much about the getting readers and write what I want.
Now, if youāre talking about the failure to conquer my stage fright? I was on the stage from about 12-24 years of age. Iām done with that part of my life. I donāt want to be on stage. The failure is of something I donāt have a passion for.
Now, I have a passion for singing, but that is being vented in writing, for now.
Interesting coping mechanismā¦
Noā¦ I mean, yeah I get a little low and upset, but then I focus on what went wrong and address itā¦
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The thought of failing gives me anxiety.
I have a terrible fear of failure, and when I know Iāll fail, I go into a deep depression. Or when the anxiety gets too hard, Iāll also go into depression.
No, I canāt. But I try to push through it because trying is better than not trying.
The problem with my crippling mentality is that I focus too much on what I donāt succeed. Itās stupid, I know, but I overthink with every piece of failure or problem I encounter, and then once an achievement or piece of success happens (which rarely happens), I go āyayā and then Iām back to being depressed. 
I used to be like you! Then I developed a terminal case of donāt-give-a-damn, and my lifeās been a lot happier since. (>āæā )