Not even one friend, absolutely none.
So, would you date someone who has no friends? The reason why I ask this is because I’m curious know to if being with someone who is friendless could hinder your relationship. Like if the person you’re dating is clingy. I am aware that not everyone is like this, but there are people who are very clingy and just a bit much.
What do you think?
Bonus Question: Would you share friends with your romantic partner? Meaning would you allow your friends to become friends with your romantic partner?
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Do pets and houseplants count as friends?
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No. Those are your children.
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Not a red flag. I’ll be their friend. I’ll date them. Can bring them into my circle. Share my friends. Everybody can be friends!! The more the merrier all that. Honestly it’s easier on me cause I won’t have to do the work of figuring out where I fit into in their own friend group lol.
But curious why they have no friends. I understand someone might not have close friends or people they hang out with on the regular… but zero friends?? Maybe they’re not aware they have friends
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That’s very considerate of you. I like that.
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I was going to say yes but I realised one of my friends has a boyfriend who pretty much has no friends of his own. He’s a nice guy by all accounts, and treats her well, but it’s also been a bit difficult to integrate him into our friend group. He does get along with the other guys in the group, though. My friend shared a lot of his backstory when they first started dating, and adding to that his work schedule, it kinda makes sense that he has a difficult time making/keeping friends.
So I guess it’s a red flag depending on why the person doesn’t have friends. Could be a sign that they’re a horrible person other people avoid. Or it could just be that adulting is too difficult to leave room for friends.
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A lot of people prefer solitude but in that case it is odd that they are even dating. Unless the other person made the first move.
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There are people in this world who prefer having a romantic partner rather than making friendships.
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he made the first move 
and he’s not completely antisocial, but also not the kind to make friends anywhere he goes
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Maybe they find it hard to find and make friends, and just need that little bit of Human Kindness to grow…
You could be the one to allow them to flourish, and find growth within yourself… Who knows? But without that leap of faith, you both will never know…
SD
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My partner didn’t have any friends he was talking to on a day-to-day basis when I met him. He still doesn’t really. I mean, he does have childhood friends and he does call them his friends, but he hasn’t talked to them in over ten years, so, like idk.
My point is, yes, I would date them because it’s not about the friends. It’s about their personality and whether you click with that person or not. Not going to be dating their friends 
And I think it would be… well, a choice if someone decides to not date someone just because they don’t have friends. Maybe they just didn’t find the right opportunity or the right people.
If they’re “I don’t care about your personal life“ type of clingy, I’d block them
Yeah, if they want to My friends are both married, and I hope one day we can all get together and the guys can all meet each other.
That being said, I don’t have any male friends (irl), but even if I did, I wouldn’t mind a bit if he and my partner became friends. In fact, I’d probably want them to be friends.
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Oof, that depends on your definition of “friends.” What extroverts and introverts consider friends are two completely different ball parks from my experience. Introverts are a lot more selective, wary, and have a smaller circle on purpose. Extroverts will “befriend” just about anyone, but that doesn’t mean their friendships have weight to them.
I find that introverts prefer quality over quantity and if they seem like they have no friends, depending on their circumstances, it could just be that everyone they’ve come across sucks. So they haven’t really gotten close to anyone or aren’t close to anyone at that point in time.
I had a co-worker who was an extrovert and she knew everyone’s birthdays, remembered people’s hobbies, made an effort to participate in all the work events that weren’t work related like parties, after work hangouts etc. But when she needed these same people to be there for her when she was having a rough time, none of those people were truly friends. I find that a lot of these people “know” each other on a surface level. And when life gets really tough or inconvenient for said “friends”, then you find out who is actually your friend.
Also on your comment about childhood friends, I have one that I’ve known since we were 15. We basically “check in to make sure we’re alive” probably once a month or less. We’re busy adults haha. But despite that I barely talk to her when compared to this group of “friends” my husband and I hang out with almost every weekend, I’d still say that my childhood friend still knows me more than this other group, and I’d choose to hang out with her any day over them because she knows me in a way that they don’t/can’t. She’s basically family so the rules don’t always apply with people like that.
Long story short, I’d date someone “with no friends” but it depends on their personality and the “why.” Do they have acquaintances? Neighbors? Co-workers? People that they’ll be friendly with in passing, but just don’t divulge anything too personal? There might be a valid reason for that.
Now if the person is like a puppy with separation anxiety and can’t seem to be independent from their romantic partner in any way, then regardless of whether they have “friends” or not, that’s unhealthy. People shouldn’t put all their burdens and the responsibility to “make them happy” on one person. It’s unrealistic. People should know how to function and be happy on their own without relying on their partner. 
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