Well, whitewashing being limited to whites and their history instead of it’s full definition is by definition whitewashing the word whitewashing.
It had to do with painting wood, to hide it’s age and deterioration on a home or on fences. Had nothing to do with skin color.
Yeah, I know right? It has a couple of definitions and what you said is one of them, and what I said is another. But the internet basically changes and bastardizes pretty much everything they can now.
It’s absolutely funny from a crowd that coined the term gaslighting.
I know right? Most of their logic is contradictory and doesn’t make sense, anyway?
The part I find most frustrating is that it’s all or nothing. Unless I’m in lock-step, I must not have no sympathy for anything that’s part of the worldivew.
I’ll give you one of the dumbest examples that most people can get is wrong to just blindly follow:
People who get enraged at a partner because of a dream. It’s to the point where a lot of people justify outright hitting a partner for a dream. No, that’s is unfounded abuse.
Now, do some people have that dream because subconsciously they are aware that something is off in their relationship? Yes. I fully sympathize with that.
Now, does a dream like that feel so real that it can take up to half an hour to seperate dream from reality? Yes. Longest I’ve gone is 5 minutes.
So, there’s a lot I can sympathize with, in this. It does not make it the sole point of evidence to justify evil on your own part towards your partner.
And I’m like this with a lot of subjects, where I just see imperfection being paraded about as having nailed it.
One thi g is that now that older terms of whitewashing could get me in arguments I don’t want to bother with, I’ve got to find different words for the same thing. Lol
“Sweep it under the rug”, “elephant in the room”…
Same
Fair enough, best to let them eat themselves.
At 54.6K words, the intimacy scene is done, the chapter is done. starting the finale next chapter. I know that Romancing the Beat wants consummation at mid-point, but I just love the ‘bioware’ style big love scene with first love making before the ‘final battle’. I dunno, i just love that structure for romance progression. It was super fun to write, but probably needs tons of editing. Heh, scratch out ‘probably’!
Now wish me luck for 6K words finale! 60K 
Honestly, the main reason I only got 100 words was because I wasn’t allowed to use my arm for most of the week due to getting stitches. I couldn’t move at that angle 
I would say it was nice to have a break but now I have a lot to catch up on because apparently that wasn’t a “valid reason” to get an extension for my major project story ;-; good thing it was almost done anyway
this story is already a disaster lol.
I had a dream about the ending of a story lol. So that might make it easier to write.
So my vision for my novel is scary… the scope is really big, like two generations of a family intertwined with the real life political history of two countries starting from the 80s to present day.
I watched an interview with a very prolific writer who said she almost lost her mind writing her epic. Do I, relatively inexperienced writer, dare to approach this at the expense of my mental health?
There’s already so much I gotta do — fiction, reference books, interviews, videos — and it’s only in the plotting stage.
gaslighting wasn’t coined by the internet crowd… it originates from a 1930s play and is not only recognized as a colloquial term for severe and mentally damaging manipulation by the APA, but is also occasionally used in clinical literature as well. Not so much in current times, but there are case studies on it from the 70s-90s
the term has certainly made a resurgence in recent years and is often misused to refer to manipulation or lying much less intense than actually gaslighting. Similar to how terms like ‘narcissistic abuse’ are regularly overused/misused in a somewhat (ironically) histrionic way. But gaslighting certainly wasn’t invented by the internet and it has always referred to psychological manipulation.
take care of yourself. try it, absolutely, but maybe take a little more time for self care than that author.
It’s hard to say, but if you really want it, sure… if you are okay spending years on it strictly for your own amusement
If it’s being used for a much lighter definition, that counts as coined. It just means the word itself isn’t coined, just the new watered down definition is.
And honestly words are redefined all the time. It just gets harder to communicate when the terms are hijacked like this. shrugs
uh… hm. going on that completely unnecessary gaslight research tangent seems to have un-anxious’d me. which is great bc the stomach ache was really starting to get annoying. I want to drink my coffee, damn it!
anyways, i chopped off the first half of this chapter to replace it for better pacing. But now I’m thinking I might just turn the replacement I’m working on into a whole new chapter and add the chopped-off part back but make that the next chapter? But then I’m not really sure if that fixes the original pacing issue at all. Maybe it will feel more smooth if I integrate a chapter from the other mc between these two? 
we’ll see.
no it does not.
the term you’re looking for is semantic change or semantic drift and at this point I’m not sure the word ‘gaslight’ has “drifted” enough to really count. But ig that’s up to opinion until the 2030s when it’s really drifted.
that’s true, it can get frustrating.
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