Yeah.
Its also a catch-22. If I dont lift the groceries, I lose the muscle. We hated watching grandma get up on her own after a fall, but if we picked her up every time, eventually she wouldnt get up at all. Thwt woman was only walking towards the end because she fought for her steps.
If anyone says “you’re not a true writer if you take a break during your period”, I’m going to send the Jabberwocky after them. See if they like that!
That would be insane if anyone said that.
Sending you virtual fox hugs because fox hugs are the most wonderful, magical hugs ever.
Thank you, buddy!
There is rhe option of physical therapy vs getting help with things they can no longer do. PT gives them more time, but doctor enforced isnt until a long hospital stay or other serious injury. Preventative measures would have to be a self-choice. Preventative also needs to be far less intense than a younger person’s exercise. (The sure way to fall is to take shorter steps. A younger person’s stride prevents falls: that’s leg steength.)
When it was time for my grandfather-in-law to stop driving, the cop issuing the ticket told him he cant drive no more (doctor never revoked his liscence, just had “authority” tell him it ws time, and not his own son). Sp, authority beyond yourself stops arguments, and also gives you a relaity check from an outsider over what they think your parents can handle.
o thanks for that dose of depression, as if my mom working in a care home didn’t make me phobic enough of getting old 
excuse me, i have to have another existential crisis, brb
I’m reminded of the Oblivion game’s opening:
Uriel Septum: “I go to my grave. A tongue shriller than all the music calls me. You shall follow me yet for a while, then we must part.”
Maybe because of this discussion with her father, she’s determined to prove to him that she’s a good leader since she’s convinced that he considers her inadequate…? ¯\_(ﭢ)_/¯
I think that’s what it is too. That the word “hit too close to home” for that one reader because I think to the majority, most readers wouldn’t take it that seriously especially considering the context.
I always understood the word as a “man explaining something to a woman in her own field of expertise and assuming that in spite of her expertise, she doesn’t know what she’s doing in that field.” Something like that. When my boss was new, our dev team was primarily female and he sat there and explained servers to us. No one asked or said anything about not knowing about servers. I think he was talking about something else in relation and then felt he had to explain that too, and as you can imagine, the mostly female team members and I are looking at each other like… does he really think we don’t know what a server is considering our occupation? But we’d never seen him do something like that when talking to the male co-workers so in that case, it was very obvious that there was some bias at play even if it wasn’t malicious or he was unaware.
Anyway, unrelated to writing haha! 
But I know what you mean about people mis-using the word and weaponizing it against others.
That’s exactly what happens XD
It’s like you’ve read it already 
Yeah, she goes on to try so, so hard to the point where she makes a big mistake because of a suggestion he makes when he finds out her magick is evolving 
She follows through because she wants to show him she has it in her and it goes all wrong.
Then she blames herself.
I know it legitimately happens. The word came out of legitimate use. Frabkly we have a lot of scoial issues that would benefit from 1 word defintuons like that.
But there is this weird dynamic: if someone ain’t assertive, they dont know, and a lot of women aren’t, immediately…and men are given the benefit of the doubt on being aasertive until they prove otherwise. That secondary trait would lead to bouts of unnecesary explanations. And it is a faulty way of thinking, but people follow “charisma” more than right, always have.
Personally, I’d take more offense from someone who doubles down after I’ve calmly corrected it…but when you’re first starting out with a boss, nobody wants to jump in to correct it.
As for the other end of things, it ain’t a gender thing, but people go from calmly listening to yelling in your face with no middle groumd. I know that won’t help with any episodes. Its like everyone needs a descalation course.
that is very beautiful and does not make the elderly any less spooky.
No, what’s apooky is having a dream about demonic posession of your grandfathwr right after his desth. Not kosher.
i’ve had demon grandpa dreams before, but never about my own.
Ot didnt go fully demonic entity until it wuit trying to convince me he was in hell, burning.
Its not that I dont believe in hell or demons, it’s just not theologically sound for Christians to currently believe in “Hell” being now used. Theologically sound is Sheol or the waiting place–basicslly your tomb, waiting on Judgement. Beleiving in Hell here and now is a going back to Greek belief (Hades).
But anyway, the dream was trying to convince me of something that wouldn’t shake me and then went nuts when I tried to correct it. Just weird. The further I get from it, the more surreal it is.
how dare Weird Demon Grandpa try to convince you of something theoloically unsound! >:o
Well, it’s unsound (therefore illogical to the beleif system, and I tened tk be logic based), but traditionally, people tend to beleive you can be in hell at death–a lot of people who have “died and came back” claim it, too. So, Ive been culturally exposed to it…whixh means it didnt come out of nowhere, just not necessarily something I’d put together.
But then, me talking about it caused my father to tell me that Gradpa was saying something about being hellbound in his delerious end-state…and a family secret that I won’t likely talk about until my father’s death–if that. The only person it still means something to would be him directly, and my generation indirectly.
What about Buddism and its conception of hell?
Outside the parameters of whst I believe in and where the thing I don’t believe in comes from, really.
But: its far closer to Purgatory, a punishmebt based upon your own merit…but I tend to dislike it for seversl reasons.
It’s based upon the idea that you can pay for your own sins…in the next life. Its not the consequences of your actions right now.
Its s huge problem. Punishment is supposed to restore what was lost, and if youre paying in the next life, youre not making rsstitution now. The concept of an eye for an eye doesn’t restore, but it ensures that you yourself face the consequences of your actions done to others, on a personal level.
So you look at…ah…punishment for something like murder: incarceration doesn’t bring anyone back to life, an eye for an eye: death: doesn’t restore anything. The closest you can come to rastoration like that is giving the life of the person to the ones they ended…but that’s a form of slavery, at best. Why we put people in jail or end them has to do with the protection of scoiety, not a thing to do with rstitution.
The way Christianiry deals with the restirution is puts the muderer and the murdered in the hands of someone who can bring back both–actually can restore things.
That’s what’s hard on people. “How can a muderer and their victim live eternally together?”
Well, we put attempted murderers and their victims back on the streets together, in due time, so we clearly don’t care if people are forced to coexist. We do this under the assumtion rhat time has changed the nature of both and that they can now coexist.
Well, the Christian afterlife is basically the same principle: the afterlife is an agreement between the being capable of restoration and the muderer or the victim to coexist by the restorer’s rules.
And people hate it becuase a murderer that everyone hates can make it. Or anything else you hate can make it.
That part always amuses me because its full of resentment towards others instead of realizing the bar is so low that nothing in your past (and depending on your attitude, notning in your future) will truly punish you in an afterlife.
I get people who resent the restorer for the rules he has (and they dont want to enter a contract with him) better than those who care how another gets in. You hold standards too high on others, and youre not going to like strict rules held on you. Might as well cue up for a purgatory system, then, live your millions of lifetimes as a slimy slug or whatever.
Slugs have it easy compared to tapeworms.
Dwpwnss on whmmykur view. Tapeworm has a hosue that it lives int hat noursihes it. Slug has to watch out for salt.