They’re both assholes, so yes. Usually not radfems though.
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I think so?? Idk I tend to fluctuate weirdly around the aro and ace spectrums and it feels as much like a part of my identity as my raging bisexuality, so.
And there is an “A” in the LGBTQ+ acronym, and it sure as hell doesn’t stand for “ally.”
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It is. Anyone who says otherwise can’t handle the truth.
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Yeah, I guess so. I don’t get TERFs, but I do understand why they lump all transwomen together, because of the minority using the trans umberella to manipulate the system and do bad things, but it doesn’t make TERFs right to do so.
Interesting. Do you find that being ace/aro conflicts with your bisexuality?
Does it not? I wasn’t really sure what it stood for because I have heard different things from different people. I’ve heard “Ally” before, but that’s not a part of the spectrum. I’ve heard Aro and Ace be used interchangably, which I guess makes sense in the acronym to put them both under A, but they are both different definitions in real life, and different sides of the spectrum.
I’ve never actually been romantically attracted to anyone of either gender. I used to think this was weird, but I learned that I wasn’t the only one. Then I experimented sexually, and decided that I wasn’t into sex in that way (as a connection) but a means to an end. Not as sexual attraction, but I can be aesthetically attracted to masculine and feminine traits in people, if that makes sense? Not in a sexual way.
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Words get in the way of communication in this instance.
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What I mean is, TERFs hear all these awful stories about trans women (e.g. a transwoman sexually assaulted a cis woman), and they think that all trans women are like those stories they hear of incidents involving trans/cis women, and they paint all trans women in a bad light and want to exclude them all because of what way the media is painting them. But barely any are like that, and the posers that are using the “trans woman” umberella to get away with legally assualting cis women and play the system because they are “trans” are jackasses, and probably not real trans women in the first place. What I am saying is that they lump the poser “trans women” and the real trans women together as one group, and they want to exclude them all because they can’t seperate them both from each other. The TERFs then have a vendetta against all trans women.
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Exactly.
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I don’t think it’s so much that they can’t as much as they don’t want to.
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Kind of?? Tbh I’m not entirely sure if I’m asexual or not. I’m not really physically attracted to anyone who identifies as a guy, but I think I’m attracted to people of every other gender except boy so I feel weird identifying as lesbian, but I’m still not sure??
Right now I identify as demiromantic bisexual when talking to other queer people since most cishet people get confused, but sometimes I feel like I might just be aromantic. I’ve been attracted to boys, girls, nb people, genderfluid people… just not entirely sure what kind of attraction it is. Also wrestling with comphet right now, which is always fun.
I think that I can identify as aro-ace and bisexual, because the aro-ace part kind of fluctuates for me but attraction to multiple genders has always been a part of me. Sexuality and romantic attraction are weird, fluctuating spectrums, and it can be hard to figure out where you fit in—especially considering how little-known aro and ace identities are. Honestly, how I identify just kinda comes down to how I’m feeling in the moment. But both aro-ace and bisexual seem to fit me okay, so really, who knows?
Allies are supporters, and they’re amazing, but they’re not part of the community. The version of the acronym (or at least what I can remember from it) is LGBTQ2SIAAP+, with two A’s, which I’m assuming are for aro and ace. But the two terms are definitely not interchangeable, and it annoys me that there are people who think that. Split attraction theory (basically romantic and sexual identities being different) is something we need to talk about more within the LGBTQ+ community for sure.
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i just don’t know if i’m demi or just plain allo
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Further testing required
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Idk if it’ll be helpful but there’s also this thing:
Same thing goes for the aromantic spectrum.
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I’ve heard about being aceflux/aroflux before!! It’s another identity that I relate to, but I’m a bit hesitant to get into microlabels within the aro/ace community when it’s entirely possible that I’m still just questioning and confused.
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I go by: Penn
Age: Doesn’t matter!
Gender identity: Male
Pronouns: He/Him
Orientation: Gay
About me: Lazy scribbler during my free time. I also read and watch an unhealthy amount of gay fictions/movies.
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Welcome welcome~
Thank you! 
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I go by: Kiko
Age: 25 almost
Gender identity: cis female
Pronouns: she/her
Orientation: Panromantic asexual
About me: I don’t know why I decided to reply to a thread with last reply 8 months ago.
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aww welcome!!
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Haha, no shame in that
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DITTO. LITERALLY ME. 
I was like wait, wait, wait, you don’t wanna sleep with girls who you find pretty?
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