To observe is one thing, but to some people, experiencing is another story. Yet some people are able to write romance stories or stories with some romance in it, yet never experience a romantic relationship. Whether it is idealistic or even semi-realistic or whatever, they write romance stories or have some romance in their stories.
Yet people who have never been in a relationship DON’T write romance in their novels, not even a little bit. Yet some who are in romantic relationships also do not write romance either.
So, I am someone who has never been in a relationship nor do I want to be. Yet I often think about my fictional characters as an extension of me in weird situations or extraordinary situations. They don’t fall in love either, I forbid them because to add romance into their lives would require me to understand romance in a way I never experience. I may be observant, but that’s nothing in comparison to actually experiencing it. I am not going to go out to find someone to experiment being in a romantic relationship for the sake of writing good fleshed out characters or whatever. That is stupid and time consuming. Yet I do enjoy romance shows and such, but I treat that like an itch that comes once in a while and I have to scratch it.
I am semi-romantic, but don’t show it. Nor do ship fictional characters, mainly because I got bored and rather focus on EVERYTHING else than shipping non-canon and canon relationships.
Overall, I don’t think about what my characters want. Some could probably benefit from romantic relationships or even interesting friendships or even both. Yet since I see them as myself in weird ways, I rather they focus on the goal and meeting people along the way, but romance isn’t there.
If I was to make Frostsong have romance in the story where the romance is a subplot or a minor subplot, then maybe, but it is the matter of actually putting romance in there.
It feels fake and cheesy as hell. Who wants fake ass cheesy romance in their stories? Some might, I ain’t some of those people.
TL;DR- If I tossed romance in my novels, even a little, would it truly matter if being or not being in a romantic relationship would help me in the end?
Thoughts and feelings?